Why I lost it this morning.
Claire - Tuesday, April 02, 2013
Facebook is a great way to spread in
important message to many people really quickly. Some of it is profound, some
funny and some first looks both profound and funny until you really look at it.
I am quite sure you have all seen this one:
It looks all clever and witty. I
giggled the first time I saw it. The second time I happened to be eating a
piece of amazing sashmi with some greens and wasabi, it had literally taken me
15 seconds to prepare. It dawned on me that actually this fast, easy food was
perfect nourishment for my body. I got a little defensive of the piece of
yellowfin on my plate (phew at least it wasn't cheap), fast and easy doesn't
mean without value.
Since then this little saying has
popped up on my newsfeed a number of times and I tried really hard to ignore
it. Today was the last straw... I lost it!
I finally shared it with a comment
that went a bit like this:
"I am not normally one for
Facebook rants, but this morning I hit the end of my patience with this one.
Versions of this keep coming up
on my news feed. I can't contain myself any longer. I HATE IT!!!!
Before we even get onto the
implied slut shaming side. It is also wrong about food. What is easier or
faster than a beautiful piece of sashimi with a side of greens and wasabi? It
is fast, easy and to die for! (Have you ever allowed yourself to meet a woman
like that before she was crushed under the weight of societies ideals on being
ladylike).
Salad is cheap, bone broth is
cheap, a gourmet meal with produce from your own garden is cheap. What the heck
is a "cheap" person anyway, a frugal one? One that doesn't expect
much in exchange for sex? One that sees little value in material possessions?
Are these bad traits?
Fake food is not food, so don't
eat that stuff, but what is a fake person? One that has been bullied out of
being authentic? One that has been told their only value is how they look so
try to look as good as they want their soul to feel?
It is time to think about what
this actually says. What does it say about our values? Are we looking at people
as consumables as we do food?"
OK, maybe it wasn't exactly like
that, there may have been a few profanities in there the first time. But let's
really look deeply into the values we put on people and well by saying people,
we are all really talking about women. If you described a man as fast you would
just assume he was pretty athletic. Where as the term "fast women"
gives a completely different image. So let's not worry about pretending that
the whole statement is not focused on turning into an undesirable woman.
Cheap = cheap whore, like not even a
prostitute with some class. Well we know it is every little girls dream to grow
up to be a cheap hooker selling her body on the streets to make ends meet.
Risking her life for the sheer thrills it brings. Let's stop lying to ourselves
and recognise that no one WANTS that, it is often the result of very diminished
opportunity.
Easy?
“If she's amazing, she won't be easy.
If she's easy, she won't be amazing. If she's worth it, you wont give up. If
you give up, you're not worthy. ... Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you;
you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.” - Bob Marley
Stalk her, harass her, break her
until she gives in? Because a woman value is measured by how hard she resists?
Can't see a problem here, lets move on.
And well, we all and hate those fake
people, fake bodies, fake smiles, fake actions. What happened to them that they
are so afraid to be their beautiful amazing selves? We are all the product of
atoms forged within the hearts of stars, what happened that cause them to
forget what they are and their infinite potential?
Is it because we started looking at
them as we do a consumable, disposable product?
